Far more than just positive thinking all leaders have a common trait of being compelling, not just compelling they are positive in thought and certain of their opinions.
We are preprogrammed to seek out all of the evidence we need to confirm and support the view that we are a failure as soon as the project or process we are responsible for fails. This is just how most of us are made, or so we are told. We automatically ask our subconscious mind why we failed and then it answers with all the justifications you could possible need to recognize yourself as complicit in the failure or worse still that you are the cause of the failure.
Of course it doesn’t have to be this way, we could take a more positive view and instead ask ourselves what we learnt from the process and how the lessons might help in moving us towards our ultimate goals, achieving our dreams? A different approach, a much more positive approach and perhaps a more helpful approach.
As mere mortals we are encouraged from a very early age to set limits on our achievements normally so that we aren’t disappointed so much if we fail and probably done with the most honorable and best intentions. This process of mental self imposed limits is not natural, it doesn’t have to be that way. Our beliefs inform how we see the world around us and what level of control we can exercise over it and ultimately how we view failure and how great our dreams are.
We can if we choose believe in an alternative to what we’ve been taught and if you’re reading this blog post then you are at the very least interested in changing your beliefs and perspectives. We can alter our belief systems by understanding that it is not what happens that is important, its what we do about it that really counts. Beliefs are self-fulfilling so as leaders we must choose our beliefs carefully, they will determine your future and the future of those who you can influence.
A True Story
W Mitchell is a motivational speaker and speaks to audiences all over the globe. He suffered massive burns from a motorcycle accident and was paralyzed in a plane crash but he non-the-less took responsibility for his life and the changes that were forced upon him. Mitchell has overcome his obvious difficulties to become a public motivational speaker having built a $65M company, been a 2-term town mayor, a radio host, published author and a TV personality.
Mitchell’s attitude is illustrative and informative at the same time; Mitchell has said of his experiences ‘before I was paralyzed, there were 10,000 things I could do. Now there are 9000. I can either dwell on the 1000 lost or focus on the 9000 I have left’.
So we have the very real choice of accepting those imposed limits, of justifying them to ourselves and going thought our lives wondering ‘but why me?’ when things go wrong or we can take responsibility for our lives and choose what we believe to be true because its not what happens to us but how we deal with it that really makes the difference.
Thank you for reading this blog post, I hope you all enjoy your weekend and I’ll be back next week with more post’s I hope.